So I just got back from letting sam diagnos my ecu and it was deemed to be a bad ecu.
he started by remove the chip and installing it in his ecu where it work properly as it should.
then he took my ecu returned it back to its stock configuration and put it in one of his shop cars. he said once he turned the key to the on position instead of turning on the fuel pump to prime it and shut it down like it should, it just kept the fuel pump on. it also had a solid CEL that had no codes stored
So its time to start back at square one find a new ecu and get anther install kit and try it all again.
thank guys for your help